Can you change yourself?
First of all, you have to BELIEVE THAT YOU CAN CHANGE YOURSELF!
Without that you'd never be able to get where you desire to be.
(Here's how I did it )
Second of all, you need to understand that you should change.
That's the first step.
Before anything could be done, one need to understand that they require change.
And then they have to figure out WHY they should change.
In other words, Clarity of the purpose.
Thsee two steps are the most difficult and the most important steps.
Once you know where you need to go, it's easy for you to plan how you get where you want to be.
Once you figure out what should you become when you are done, figure out a these.
Once you figure out these and fill them with proper answers, YOU ARE IN!
Daily REMIND YOURSELF OF THE PERSON YOU WANT TO BECOME.
And finally, make a plan on how you are gonna do it.
What small changes are you gonna do to get the desired outcome.
And remember, you must practise your small changes daily in order to carve them into your personality, to make them a habit of yours.
It's very important to keep that in mind.
And after few weeks, maybe months, maybe even years, you'll be done changing yourself FOR GOOD!
Hope you’d successfully find yourself.
Yes, but it’s somthing you have to reach deep inside yourself to do.
I have a good friend that use to be a felon.
He earned a very good living transporting contraband.
He was caught, and spent a lot of years behind bars.
I met him well after this, however.
He and I share a kinship, and while I never went to prison we have both altered the course of our lives for the better.
He is one of the most honest people I know, and I know I can trust him.
This is extremely rare, however.
It’s a lot of hard work that requires a lot of self discipline.
It requires forgiveness, and it requires you to shift your whole paradigm to see the world for what it is and not what you want it to be.
My friend has a hard path to walk because most people associate felon with extreme negativity.
Because of the stereotypical felon he has to work so much harder to prove himself, and he doesn’t get second chances; he’s lucky to even get a first.
It would be so much easier for him to fall into old habits, but then he understands that it’s better to be in debt than flush with cash wondering when the cops are going to bust down the door.
People often attribute wanting to change because they belive that it will lead them to success.
While it often does, it’s their definition of success that changes.
When you look into yourself you have to approach it as a present that was sent from an anonymous friend.
You have no idea what is inside or what to expect.
You have to approach it with an open mind, and you have to be willing to understand that your journey may never be complete.
I had an extremely unpleasant upbringing, served in the military, and have worked in the oilfield.
I put myself through college, know how to write software, build circuit boards, and so much more.
So many people that have walked in similar shoes have went way different directions.
I feel lucky every single day because things seem like they should have wound up way differently.
Ultimately the only thing you can change in this world is yourself.
It’s not easy and you’re never done.
The only thing you can do to make things easier is to forgive both yourself and others, and take the high road; even if you don’t presently understand why.
It does get easier with practice, but then there are always snags that will bring up the past every now and then.
Depends on how one defines change on parameters like scope, duration of period and psychological intensity.
Change is different from adapt or transform.
Please read on for a different view on change.
Can you change? A Counterpoint!
Change seems to be the new keyword of all the swanky hotshots and Motivational Guru’s.
With so much of advice about change being offered by everyone and that too to young people (especially when someone starts going towards the thirties), with internet teeming with stories about why change is good, with writers harping on about change is the fore bringer of betterment, with opposite sex consistently cribbing about or trying to make you change, is change really a good thing or is this keyword simply the latest in fashion.
Mind you, people do not say transform, or adapt, they talk about change – which is a different ballgame from earlier two terms.
So, when people insist or say you must change, is that a rhetorical statement or are they simply trying to superimpose their own notions on you and your thinking.
In first place, why do such people never change and stop asking everyone around them to change!
So let me try and dissect LIFE and see if one can change.
When one is a child, parents consistently tell their kids to be a good human being, by being sensitive to others, by creating something for others, or simply being benevolent.
This is also the instinctive behavior of a child till she becomes conditioned to the reasoning that sharing something may mean availability of less of the same for her.
So, what really happens when one grows and starts earning .
All benevolence goes for a toss as by simply understanding the materialistic dimension of the world, it becomes clear that some hard decisions are required to grow further in life.
Decisions which may adversely impact others but simply in the so called ‘theory of integrity’ must be taken.
Yet as one grows older and wiser, generally, if emotional, material and social needs are fulfilled in the progression of life, the person starts leaning towards becoming a philanthropic.
Hence life becomes full circle.
So do humans change? Their ‘being’ may change at various points in life but it all comes back to the start.
Then where is the change in human beings?
Why then is there so much emphasis put on “change” by many people.
Is it a need to become something else or follow the sheep and then try to make others adhere to same reasoning, similar manner of operations or same philosophies.
Or, is it simply the need to go to next level as per their understanding.
If so, then what about the levels .
Are there any levels apart from what exist in our mind; are not levels only relative and may have different definitions for different people in different contexts? So, do they even exist or is there nothing called level and everything is whole and complete by its existence.
In an analogy, there could be nothing more and less of anything, after all water is water whether you consider a drop of it or an ocean.
And volume does not really matter to the subject as its properties and behavior remains the same.
Then what about the theory – change is the only consistent truth.
Well, could be, if one thinks of change as an existential dimension but can this be done consciously or on insistence of others.
Seems not really .
if one does not get overwhelmed by all the management being taught in MBA Institutes.
As they say in French, ‘plus ça change, plus c'est la même chose” – the more things change, the more they stay the same.
Turbulent changes do not affect reality on a deeper level other than to cement the status quo, so linguistically, for all change-advocates, for a change, please stop using the word change .
and for people around you that would make a quite refreshing change!
‘YOU CAN NOT CHANGE YOUR DESTINATION OVERNIGHT, BUT YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR DIRECTION OVERNIGHT.
’ Jim Rohn
“ YOU MAY NOT BE ABLE TO CHANGE YOUR HOUSE ALL THE TIME, BUT YOU CAN DEFINITELY CHANGE THE WAY YOU KEEP IT.
LIKE THAT, YOU MAY NOT BE ABLE TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE, BUT DEFINITELY YOU CAN CHANGE THE WAY YOU LIVE IT.
‘IF YOU DO NOT LIKE SOMETHING CHANGE IT, CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK ABOUT IT.
‘IF YOU WANT TO CHANGE YOUR FUTURE , YOU NEED TO CHANGE YOURSELF.
“YOU NEVER CHANGE YOUR LIFE UNTIL YOU STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE; CHANGE BEGINS AT THE END OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE.
Yes , you can change drastically.
Changing your self you need to practice and follow 64 success principles.
I choose a habit.
Then I make a list of things I want/have to do to bring that change.
I wanted to learn to swim.
I hate pool water, It’s dirty.
I still wanted to learn to swim.
I spoke to my instructor and told him about my fear of dirty water.
I told him I hate putting my head under water.
It took me 3 lessons just to put my head under water.
I had to practice putting my head under water.
After 3 lessons, my instructor started giving me lessons just swimming on my back.
I want to learn free style swimming but it will take a bit longer.
I wanted to change.
I had to learn to deal with the dirty water.
Absolutely, 100%! But it takes time, lots of time.
Changes in behavior or habits require remapping & retraining of the brain.
Neurons in the brain grow at a rate of 1 millimeter a month but they do grow.
Be patient with yourself.
Start small, establish incremental goals that encourage progress toward your ultimate goal & find someone you trust to hold you accountable.
Change is nearly impossible in a vacuum.
A community with whom to share the ups & downs of the journey will greatly increase your odds of success.
Our bodies & minds naturally gravitate toward equilibrium.
Meaning, if you break the status-quo, your body & mind will resist.
But over time, like a child, you can retrain it with the power of your will.
Persevere no matter how many time you fail.
You will find there is more joy & self-discovery in the journey itself than in the destination.
I strongly believe that no one should change herself or himself.
It is completely impossible to change because we are already born and also grown with the set of habits and good values.
The best thing to escape the fact which made you think to change yourself is to ignore everything disturbing.
Believe in yourself and never do anything which you will regret later.
Changes are constant.
We change with the situations we come across.
That means situations,time and problems will change you but definitely for better.
Stay Happy! Stay Strong! Never change unless you feel it is wrong deep down inside.
Yes, of course.
Some say that people don't change.
I think it’s true only when people don’t want to change.
Those that care and do want to change, they will.
It’s all about self-development and being dedicated to the process.
Books, videos and other people are there to help you if ask for it.
I’m serious I really don’t believe that people can change.
Because I never did, I read a shit ton of books, I workout, I go to a professional, I write in a journal and ect.
I think we all want to believe in change because it’s good.
But that doesn’t mean I won’t try.
I started a blog where I want to stop my worst habit.
follow it, it’s unfiltered and tells you why I won’t quit and in what extremes am going to to kick the bad habits I have in my life.
I believe everyone can change themselves, and can do it to become a better version of themselves, rather than worse, by learning how to love ourselves correctly.
Because that’s how I managed to do it.
And for those interested, here’s a Vlog I made exactly about how I did it.
Is very deep, with the intention to reprogram your own subconscious.
Change is inevitable.
Change is constant.
It is 100% possible to change yourself.
It may seem difficult or disturbing, but it’s possible.
changing oneself has to do with determination.
This is the first step.
Certain changes brings negative results while productive changes brings positive results, it depends on what is undergoing the change and the method applied.
In cases like this, you need patience and understanding.
It's really possible to change myself.
For a special purpose changed our attitude is very important.
But for find someone changed myself/yourself is really ridiculous things.
If u for a person or personal it means u may changed ur existence.
U are died now just your bone are available.
Don't change yourself for someone
I was a smoker.
I did not want to smoke anymore, so I went to a lot of time and effort to wean myself off cigarettes.
I was a high school graduate, I wanted to study Engineering, so I enrolled, sat exams and finished the degree.
Change can always be instigated by yourself if you have a start goal, an end goal, and a plan.
Decide where you want to be and what steps you need to take to get there.
It is more than possible to change yourself.
This is called personal development.
I think it is very essential for a person to keep growing or to try and change for the better.
I think that we all have some hidden potential that we need to unlock and this can only be achieved if we are aware of ourselves.
So I do believe it is possible to change yourself.
The only question is do you want to change?
I hope my answer has helped!